Tuesday, May 22, 2007

How can you be you and get what you want? Life is full of sacrifice……sometimes

How can you be you and get what you want? Life is full of sacrifice……

Being you….. isn’t always as easy as it should be. People always say “just be yourself” but in MANY instances, as you get older and your thoughts, ideas and preferences get more polarized, that isn’t as EASY as it sounds! You can’t just do or say anything in life , so I think that phrase is overrated and overused! LOL

We often have to make concessions, and sacrifices for who or what we know or think is right or what we “think” is who/where we want to be. Burt when is it too much and when do we begin to sacrifice what makes you, “you”? Self-awareness is a never-ending journey and you can get caught up in a tailspin of being something other than “you”. I ,personally, am still evolving and still learning new things about myself and have gotten caught in that tailspin before. I am constantly trying to in some way (self-talk, meditation, talking to friends) trying to get a better handle on being who I am and compromising for my overall happiness. So how can you get what you want and be yourself when the two ideas are not in sync? You have to understand what you need at the core of who you are. And if that means giving up OTHER ideas of what society thinks you should be doing and who you should be maybe that is the right road for you…maybe not.

But one thing I have learned is that you can’t hide from yourself…. You can but not (as I often say) without consequences and repercussions.

And you probably won’t end up being the “happiest” that you would have been had you just waited and evaluated the situation before acting on something . You can lie to everyone around you (maybe even convinced YOURSELF that this is what you want), but deep down, in the depths of your heard and mind….. you are there and there is where you will FIND …. you and you know the truth.

There have been times in my life where I KNEW that I should not have done certain things, made certain moves, had WARNING BELLS going off and felt a little “off” about something…but kept on full-steam ahead and came to regret it.

Now, I try to be as true to myself as I can. Life is too short not to be. YOUR LIFE is not textbook and I am coming to realize that there are no set guidelines on “when such-and-such” should be accomplished or successes attained. Societal “norms” often make this harder to see…...

I believe that as we get older we seek different things and out of those “different needs” sometimes comes “giving up this…to get that”. I get it. I simply believe that you should not have to change the WHOLE of who you are or what you like or what you are ready for at a certain point in your life…unless you are REALLY ready to EMBRACE (not just accept) the changes that you are making if you are not making them earnestly and whole heartedly.
Are we always happy? They say happiness is a choice. Do we make certain sacrifices in life? Yes. Are sacrifices a part of life? Yes. But the thing to remember is…..In the words of an old song by Teddy Pendergrass you can’t hide from yourself…. No matter where you go… there you are.

Think about it.


The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...


The Phoenix aka ThatGirlTam said...

Second in line ain't so bad either...lol...

I sometimes feel conflicted in my own life because of what I KNOW I need and the sacrafices that I've made that BARELY keep me floating. Not only do we need to accept the changes that we are making, we also need to remember that change is NOT easy...not for us and not for the people in our lives that are "used" to the OLD way of being.

When I'm giving a reading and the death card comes up, people get freaked out because they think it means they're going to die...but that's not the meaning. It means DEATH of an old way of being...time for change. Every year the cycle comes right around now...so if you feel changes coming...embrace them. If other people aren't on board with the change...keep it pushin! They either have to roll with the punches or get rolled the hell over.