Thursday, April 06, 2006

Potty for all

Well, my little one has started to potty train himself. Yup, you heard me, potty train HIMSELF. I am amazed at him as I watch him grow and learn and SPEAK and put thoughts together and put sentences together. I am still in that “you are a real person” amazement phase that probably every mother goes through at some point or another. Sometimes I really hate that I can’t be at home with him, to teach him and to learn FROM him. He says “mommy, read book……” in his small a sweet voice as I am about to leave. His dad takes him to school on most mornings because he doesn’t have a micromanaging asshole clock-watching him , so he can be a little later going in to work. Sometimes, I don’t even get a chance to say good morning to my baby because I am gone before he wakes if it’s one of those days where he’s a little more tired. But on these days, when he really wants ME to stay (usually he’s a Daddy’s boy, much to my damn shagrin) it hurts me that I cannot be there and take the time to just sit down and do something as simple as read a book.





He now wants to feed himself, though he makes a mess, and it's so cute to see him try. And messes are o.k. after all, that's what being a kid is about. He can now pretty much feed himself out of this cereal bowl......all this and he's not even 2. Is that fast for his age **shrug** I dunno....I just know that I'm proud :-)






Women who are in the corporate work-world and are mommies deal with this all the time, but it’s different now. It’s different because it’s now ME. I now see and feel their pain. And I hate the fact that I have to leave him every single day and potentially miss out on his accomplishments. What if he has some big significant accomplishment with **gasp, gulp** with one of them “surrogate caregivers” (i.e. the daycare people) and not with ME or my husband! I hate the thought……. And thusfar, if anything major has happened in his development like 1st step or 1st word, the daycare folks haven’t said anything. But…..there is also a dichotomy within me……for I also know that within me, I am NOT a solely stay-at-home mother type. I would lose my everlovin mind being at home 24/7, no change of scenery, no change of venue, NO adult interaction and no break from my little one. Though I love my little one with every fiber of my being, since I LIVE where we’d be all the time and my shopping habit would be almost cut down to NOTHING since we’d be livin off one salary…….I might lose my mind with that option too.! I would ideally love to work 3 days a week and make at least 80% of what I make and have 4 days to spend with him. That would work…..wait hold on…





…….SLAP……


O.K., I’m back, I had to slap myself back into reality! That shit just ain’t probable…… it COULD happen if that PERFECT opportunity came and that PERFECT salary came with it, but REALITY is that that just isn’t MY reality. So, this is why it means so much to me when I ask the daycare folks “Have you been working with him in terms of potty training yet?” and they replied “No….. not as of yet, but he sees when we take all of the older kids to the bathroom etc……”. It makes me feel good that it is apparent that it is because of me and my husband that he is starting to train himself! He is a very smart little boy and seeing as though he’s a potty voyeur (i.e. you CAN’T go to the bathroom without him being present) he’s picked up on everything from sitting on the potty, to the fact that you need tissue, to washing your hands when you are done.

So, here we are, in the potty and since I introduced him to his potty seat last week, he’s been uberly fascinated with it. So, he OUT.OF.THE.BLUE says “Mommy, I go potty…”. I say “Do you have to GO potty or did you already go?” . He says “I got go potty”. Well, la-dee-da…..I am ALLLLLLLLLL to happy to oblige him, I take the potty seat, plop it on top of the regular seat (I personally think those things that kids piss and shit in that I HAVE TO CLEAN OUT are DISGUSTING for that VERY reason, so that ain’t goin down in Motown) and I take his diaper off and plop him on it.


Laaa la laaa laaa

“what…what’s that I hear?” This boy starts peeing after like 2 minutes! I was amazed! See below.....



Boy asked for his tissue and everything!! LMAO!! He is tooooo funny to me!

So, after that, we get off the potty and he asks to wash his hands (dayum my baby is smart!) and the one thing I have to say is that if this keeps up, he'll be trained by his 2nd birthday! And Mommy couldn't be MORE overjoyed at THAT possibility!!! Though these days are the sweetest days in terms of him still being my "baby", I am also excited to see him grow and learn and ask for things in sentences ("mommy I want apple" or "i don't like it" or "mommy washie hands for me" or my favorite "I carry you" which means he wants ME to carry HIM down the stairs). I know this time is fading fast, and he'llbecome more independent and I can see he ALREADYhas his daddy's love of people (the boy ain't scared to talk to NOBODY)and his agressive, competitive nature. Cause Momma is more relaxed than them two men in my house, so he OBVIOUSLY got it from the "daddy monkey" as he calls his father. And YES he really calls him that when he's with me or when he's with him.....and YEEEEEEEES I started him calling him that and it kinda stuck so now the baby calls him that! LOL TOO FUNNY! But, he's growing up and soon will be riding bikes, and playing T-ball and liking girls....



But for now he's my Elmo loving, sweet boy and that's just the way I like it!

be e-z......

12 comments:

nikki said...

is that little blue cup over his wee wee supposed to prevent him from spraying upward? just curious.

he's adorable!

Robyn said...

girl, yes, that is EXACTLY what that cupis for! LOL And it works!!! Cause he's always trying to "play" with it and so, that helps it not to exit the toilet! LOL

Thank you so much for the sweet words He's my sweet boy!!!! :-)

Freaky Deaky said...

Awwwww! That was such a sweet post about your son. If I get any cavities I'll be sending the bill to you, so don't be surprised, LOL!

Hassan said...

I think I want to have kids now...

Luke Cage said...

doggonit. All of these good looking little kids, toddlers, infants and the like popping up all over the blogosphere. I want one DAMMIT! Nice photos luv...

That Girl Tam said...

My youngest (now 21 months) isn't big on speakingm but rather uses his own sign language to tell me things. We're getting ready to start his potty training soon...he grabs at his crotch when he's wet and pats on his butt when he poops...lol...although the smell usually lets out THAT little secret!

Trust me...I get home to three wild boys every night and wish I could play more of a roll in their daily lives other than dropping off, picking up, feeding and bathing them. It's a struggle that all working mothers go thru...and my husband works nights - so imagine how HE feels (and how I feel having to deal with all the kids alone every night).

But that's FANTASTIC that he's potty trained himself...My middle son refused to potty train and didn't start actively using the toilet til he was 3 1/2!! He'll be 6 on the 1st and just BARELY started STANDING UP about 2 months ago...every child is different...

chele said...

sniff sniff

I know your pain, girl. I've always had to work and not being there with my kids' firsts was heart wrenching! Talk about the guilts! But like you, I could not be a full time Mom. I'm not creative enough. I'd lose it! I applaud those that can do it successfully.

My 'baby boy' is 15 and we're in the liking girls stage and it makes me long for the potty training stage. You are soooo blessed!

Msnhim said...

He is to CUTE!!!!!! I miss that stage in their lives. My baby will be six in 2 days and its killing me. LOL


I want my baby back! LOL

Knockout Zed said...

He's gon' kill you for that potty pic one day!

KZ

YouToldHarpoTaBeatMe said...

NOT "Get'cho hand outta my pocket"! You.are.NUTS!

For a boy child, that is pretty unusual for him to be ready for the potty. Not 'gon scare ya, but Gramma 'nem would say "He movin' out the way for a new baby"....
Mine is 2 (and change), and for as long as Dad's not around, he's all for trying to use the potty.

Family vs. Career has been a long-standing problem for me too. I wanna get mine so I can provide them with an opportunity to go to college without financial aid and whatnot, but by the same token, I didn't want my children getting adapted to another woman (caregiver) or her method of teaching them things.

I'm with Zed on those pics tho. LoL

I can see it 40 yrs from now... the man is running for Congress, and Momma's whipping out the potty pics.

Robyn said...

@Harpo...

Girrrl!! Those are my BLACKMAIL pics!!! LOL And I am glad that SOMEONE feels the "career vs. baby" conundrum..... lawd! It's hard to leave him some days!!! And hold up....wait.....you're not the ONLY one who has said that he's "movin out the way...." LOL And I say that's a good thing because if he don't move, there will BE NO others! LOL I want ONE more before the store closes!

Royce's Daughter said...

WOW...he is adorable! I don't have any rug rats (that's what mine would likely be LOL!) but I can imagine being equally as proud if it were my own. Sounds like he's a smart little man.

I hope that the work situation gets better so you can spend more time with him...he is so precious!