tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13873500.post115393603863603774..comments2023-10-04T05:45:18.343-05:00Comments on <B>DISCO'S GRUUV..... <i>the life of a discodiva</i></b>: EmotionsDiscohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06458390709444803956noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13873500.post-1154105894663926372006-07-28T11:58:00.000-05:002006-07-28T11:58:00.000-05:00I have a gang o'shit to say about this post! (grea...I have a gang o'shit to say about this post! (great one btw)<BR/><BR/>My dear husband talks to his mother like she's stupid sometimes. I also realized late in the game that BECAUSE of his mother, he has a poor view of women. And has openly admitted to me that he doesn't feel comfortable discussing business WITH WOMEN. I had to remind him that I am NOT his mama and I AM NOT going to tolerate being talked AT - that shit don't fly...at all...<BR/><BR/>Now since we have 3 sons with 2 parents in the house, I see where balance plays a role. My husband doesn't like for BL (the 12 y.o.) to act all soft - but I also see that he only does it when it's convenient. He plays HARD wit his boys, but acts like a little punk when he's gettin his ass in trouble. <BR/><BR/>Middle Little (now 6) is my sensitive one. He is every BIT my son. He plays rough like 500% boy, but he's sensitive as all hell. And I say there's nothing wrong with it. At least he's now old enough to articulate, "Mommy, I'm really ANGRY. You hurt my feelings" although he's still been known to hysterically throw a tantrum or two - and cry til the cows come home.<BR/><BR/>Littlest Little - being 2 now and the official house manipulator, if I say no he falls out on the floor (he's been watching ML too much) or he starts swinging (his new thing). <BR/><BR/>It's all about programming. I WANT my children to express themselves. my husband is the "be tough" kinda guy and would rather not hear it. "Suck it up son!!" And since I'm the only FEMALE in the house, I nuture at a rate of about 300% to off-set all that macho BULLSHIT!!<BR/><BR/>Damn, sorry for the long ass comment! HAHAHA<BR/><BR/>(and btw - YOU hush about my pressing comb theory!) HAHAHAHAThat Girl Tamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14839813374699564933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13873500.post-1154031470592790832006-07-27T15:17:00.000-05:002006-07-27T15:17:00.000-05:00I agree with you. I think the problem is even deep...I agree with you. I think the problem is even deeper than that. Most of our "men" are being raised by "women" who have problems sustaining relationships with "men." So how do we properly raise a "boy" so he can grow up to be a well-rounded, confident, emotionally mature "man?"<BR/><BR/>BTW, my spawn is a girl so I have more questions than answers. LOLSingle Mahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02304629601616898196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13873500.post-1154027454103940562006-07-27T14:10:00.000-05:002006-07-27T14:10:00.000-05:00Muthafuckas be half-raised anyway. If they are ab...Muthafuckas be half-raised anyway. If they are able to at the very least OBSERVE a man treating his woman decently on a consistent basis, that man would be half way there. And they could be taught the rest. I don't have kids, so I don't know the best way to raise 'em. This is just my 2 cents.<BR/><BR/>KZKnockout Zedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16269881581495882209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13873500.post-1154002779771044112006-07-27T07:19:00.000-05:002006-07-27T07:19:00.000-05:00I grew up in a household that had 5 females. (Mom,...I grew up in a household that had 5 females. (Mom, Grandmom, & 3 sisters) My mother, ever the strong matriarch and single mother (she was to me and my brother anyway because although she was married, our stepfather sucked) taught us things that a mother normally doesn't teach her sons.<BR/><BR/> But she did a stellar job if I must say so myself. My brother and I are true gentlemen in every sense of the word. We are respectful black men and we handle our affairs responsibly. We were emotional children, but know how to display our emotions today as men, and nothing less than. <BR/><BR/>I truly do not have an answer for your "how to handle/manly ways" question, but I would impress upon you that you just do what you feel is right and leave the rest up to your little guy. There are going to be things you can't cover and explain and he will have to determine and learn on his own. More folks need to care like you do.Luke Cagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13129670058219925738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13873500.post-1154002456148286102006-07-27T07:14:00.000-05:002006-07-27T07:14:00.000-05:00Peace Robyn Goddess!!!I think men need an emotiona...Peace Robyn Goddess!!!<BR/><BR/>I think men need an emotional outlet every now and then. To restrict something as necessary as emotions is to handicap yourself.<BR/><BR/>People get expressing your emotions and being emotional; twisted. They are 2 seperate things. When being emotional you are allowing that energy to control and lead you to do things you meay regret. That is wrong.<BR/><BR/>But if you love, feel hurt express it but don't act from it. Most male figures today are set in their mind and their ways about what it is to be men. A person can only act from what they know. You can never raise higher than your source.<BR/><BR/>Good post.<BR/><BR/>Peace!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13873500.post-1153960516263638682006-07-26T19:35:00.000-05:002006-07-26T19:35:00.000-05:00I treated both my son and my daughter exactly the ...I treated both my son and my daughter exactly the same when they cried as little kids. I hugged them, kissed them, comforted them until they felt better.<BR/><BR/>SUE ME!<BR/><BR/>My son is a 16-year old young MAN. He is not a punk and he doesn't walk around crying all the time. But by the same token he's not afraid to show his feelings ... at least not to me. He says what's on his mind and he stands up for himself. I think I did okay. I can't stand to see parents who tear down their kids and deliberately make them feel bad.chelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15468273174800571759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13873500.post-1153939160014387462006-07-26T13:39:00.000-05:002006-07-26T13:39:00.000-05:00To my girl: wow....see... you could have YO OWN bl...To my girl: wow....see... you could have YO OWN blog if you stop messing around!! So eloquently put...... loves ya!Discohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06458390709444803956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13873500.post-1153938788353514732006-07-26T13:33:00.000-05:002006-07-26T13:33:00.000-05:00I totally agree. All these agressive, unemotional...I totally agree. All these agressive, unemotional men that can't deal with basic human emotion in a non-violent way are products of this and we have no one to blame but ourselves. We need to begin to teach our sons how to be progressive men that can deal with any emotion in a "manly" way but without shutting the world out in the process. Ladies, please stop raising these men to be so messed up. Stop making them your husbands/boyfriends/baby's fathers and start making them men...independent, sensitive yet strong, able to cook, clean, work, help with the babies and still be the man of the house. We are the reason that these men never grow up to be what we know they have the potential to be...it starts with you and if you continue to teach them how to handle situations in the wrong way they will be the next people in therapy!! :) (Just thought I would share...can y'all tell I deal with a man like this...)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com